Top 5 things you could do to help your wife

Written by Mohd Rafie, on Being a first time dad. His wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl a few days after Balqis.

Your wife has delivered your baby (and some babies) And now, these are five things you could do to help your wife. Remember, be the angel…

No. 1 Support and Response Unit


As a husband, during and after the pregnancy, you should be the rock of calm to your wife and family. This will help you to think rationally and judge better. As much as possible, as much as time permit, you should be the No. 1 support and response unit to your wife and baby.

Always ask what you can do

After two or three weeks, you should know the pattern and there are few things that you could do before hand to buy you some time such as:

  1. Prepare the things for changing napkins in a designated place.
  2. Make sure the room is clean.
  3. Fold your baby clothes and arrange them while watching TV or making calls.

Wash baby clothes and shopping
It would be easy if you have a maid or you are staying with your in laws, as they will help you with this task.

Ensure that your wife and your baby essential things are available ie diapers, baby wipes, etc. Check on the internet if you could get a supply of these things online and get them deliver to your doorstep. And look for offers and discounts as you could save a lot during promotional period.

And you could buy yourself some time when you are out shopping. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and breath. This will help you to organize things better and call your parents to ask.

Rub her feet and massage
Rub your wife feet and give a little massage to the foot and back. This will help your wife to relax and loosen up.

If your wife is breastfeeding your baby, it is very important for them to get enough rest and relax as it is good for the milk production.

Hold your baby
Whenever needed, hold your baby for your wife. It’s the relationship bond moment for you as a dad and your baby. Even though the baby could see your face clearly during first few weeks, but they will remember your voice and your shape. Baby is smarter than you think they are

Say thank you, I love you
Finally, say thank you. Say I love you to your wife. Whenever you need to go out to work or shopping, kiss your wife and baby. Do you have other things you can think of, share with us.

Wishing you a happy fatherhood and be the angel to your wife and your baby!


Beside these 5 tips, there are few on my side of coin. (Sorry Rafie. I mess your work here 😀 )

Buy a Happycall pan!
Before this, your wife do all the house chores. Now, you need to get use to all the kitchen utensils.

So, just add up on list a Happycall pan. Easier to prepare food (makanan berpantang is ikan bakar, kentang bakar etc), save time in the kitchen, and satisfy your tummy! Its gonna help you a lot in preparing food for you and your wife. It even easy for her to handle it especially when you are away to work.

Plan a budget for flight ticket
Being away in oversea, and you didnt have time to go back because of work restriction, plan a budget and discuss with your mothers if one of them can come over for 2-3 weeks.
Flight ticket is not cheap, so plan your budget early. This is one way to show that you care of your wife by bringing her mother beside her.


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